Sometimes there are situations that happen. They may be good or bad, they may be the result of something that we have done, or have nothing to do with what we have done.

I find that people will frequently look for the meaning behind the meaning of something that is completely out of their control. For example, it is hot outside in Phoenix right now. That’s not news…Phoenix is in the middle of the desert. They will cool off in several months. It snowed a lot in the Midwest this winter. It wasn’t because of any nino or ninas or whatever they call them, nor is it because some politician wrote a book; it has been snowing in the Midwest for the last several thousand years. Get used to it.

Endlessly worrying about things that are not in the realm of our control sap our energy, focus, and productivity. Why not dedicate your energies to things that you can control? Here are a few things that I find useful when working on this:

1. Understand that the situation you are currently dealing with is not better or worse than it may seem. Too many times people will add additional energy to a fairly benign situation and freak out about it.

2.  When you are presented with a challenge, think of someone you admire and ask yourself, “What would he/she do in this situation?” Anthony Robbins reminds us that the quality of our questions determines the quality of our lives. Ask better questions.

3. Remain active, and you won’t have time to focus on insignificant problems. Have you ever noticed that busy, successful people don’t have time to dedicate to meaningless gossip and “weather talk”? That stuff rents space in your head. Evict it by exercising, reading, or filling your head with great information that you can actually use.

In your journey to Always Better Your Best, I’d remind you to expect hiccups along the way, but remember that the light at the end of the tunnel is not a train coming at you!